Brene Brown on The power of Vulnerability

Can Being Vulnerable Increase Your Chance of Success?

I’m often scouring the Internet for inspirational videos, so therefore I would naturally spend quite some time watching TEDTalks. One of the most powerful videos I’ve watched numerous times now is Brene Brown’s ‘The Power of Vulnerability’. Brene is a storyteller / researcher. She talks about her 6 years of research into human connection, which obviously is a field of research that has such a fundamental impact on the way in which we live our lives.

I think this video has some very powerful messages, and I highly recommend that you watch until the end. I will summarise some of Brene’s key messages, and then give you my take.

Brene Brown’s Key Messages

One of the first big messages was all about connection and our ability to feel connected. She mentions that connection is really, the reason for all of us being here. (Brene, sounds like you’ve just answered the big ‘meaning of life’ question we’ve all been searching for!).

Her research demonstrated two clear outcomes: those who felt connected and those who didn’t. It all came down to if the person felt worthy. So if they felt worthy of feeling connected, then they ultimately were connected!

In Brene’s words: 

[quote]The people who have a strong sense of love and belonging believe they are worthy of love and belonging.[/quote] 

So what about the people who didn’t feel worthy? ‘We fear that we are not worthy of connection’. Which, is basically a collection of negative thoughts run wild.

There were four themes (and nuggets of gold) in her research:

  1. Courage to tell the story of who you are with your whole heart
  2. Compassion – to learn be kind to yourself first and then to others
  3. Connection – let get of who you should be in order to be who you are
  4. Vulnerability – what makes you vulnerable makes you beautiful.

The Problem

Brene Brown mentions that we as a society have a habit of numbing our emotions. The problem is, we aren’t selective, we numb it all. The good and the bad! We switch off, we hide, we protect ourselves. We build walls and we don’t let others in.

The Solution

The solution is pretty simple. It’s being able to be ourselves. To be that authentic self that you are, and to be real. It’s to let ourselves be seen for whom we really are. To love deeply from our hearts and to practice gratitude and joy.

And FINALLY:

[quote]To believe that we are enough[/quote]

My Concluding Thoughts

As a guy, I feel that maybe the stigma attached to being ‘masculine’ means you can’t truly express vulnerability. We can’t show emotion, for that shows signs of weakness. What I love about Brene’s research, is actually – by the act of being proud of all our vulnerabilities (and weaknesses), we can transform this into strengths. We can own our identity with pride, what ever that might look like. I’ve always believed that your level of success depends on your mindset. I think Brene’s research has been a clear example of this. Believe that you are connected, and you will be. Believe that you are loved, and you will be. Believe that you are successful, and you will be!

I would love to hear your thoughts. Did Brene Brown’s message of connection by the expression of vulnerability make you re-think the way you approach your life?

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