How To Get Over Shyness

When I was young, I was the timid shy kid. I hated it. This feeling that I was limited or restricted because I had this condition known as shyness.

I’ll be completely honest with you, I was introverted. My report card at school would say that I’m excelling, but didn’t socialise with the other kids. This somehow gave me the limiting belief that I was the odd one out. That I didn’t fit in and my shyness meant that I wasn’t worthy of having friends.

Here’s the thing. Introversion and shyness are two different things. Shyness is a self imposed belief. Introversion is a personality trait, but that doesn’t automatically make you shy.

There’s nothing wrong with introversion. Introversion means you need your downtime, your space away from people but doesn’t mean that you can’t also be the life of the party.

Stop Caring About What Others Think

Where does it come from? It’s because we care way to much about what others are thinking of us. It’s a fear of being rejected, being embarrassed or causing awkward weirdness. So to avoid this fear, it’s easier to be quiet.

If you feel like your shyness is holding you back, I have the answer. Shyness is self imposed belief and can be destroyed. It’s all in the mind. I’m not shy, I’m a proud introvert. Learn to have a laugh at yourself. What’s the worse thing that could happen? Is it really the end of the world?

One Step At A Time

Take baby steps. Understand that you aren’t alone, millions suffer from nervousness and anxiety in social situations.  Don’t push yourself too quickly, take baby steps. If you are terrified of being in a crowd, then don’t step on the stage just yet. Start with small social gatherings. Next time you are in that environment, just remember that there are probably lots of other people feeling exactly the same as you.

Own your introversion. Make it a strength, not a weakness.

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