Just Do It Already! 5 Tips to Conquer Your Inner Perfectionist Disorder

Are you a Perfectionist?Are you a perfectionist when it comes to content creation? There’s nothing wrong with trying to get everything perfect but it’s an issue if it’s a detriment to your results. I may have been a bit harsh calling perfectionism a disorder, but it certainly can have a massive impact on our success.

Perfectionist Definition from the Free DictionaryA propensity for being displeased with anything that is not perfect or does not meet extremely high standards. 

Let’s firstly look at the WHY?…

So why do we become perfectionists? I think it stems from an inner desire to ensure that we are liked and appreciated. In order words, we don’t want to disappoint others, we don’t want to be ridiculed or we don’t want to fail. It’s a fear of rejection.

The Inherent Problem

If you are your biggest critic, then all you’re doing is criticising yourself. That’s not cool! You end up in a vicious cycle. You produce something, you aren’t happy with the results. You tweak it or scrap it. By the time you’ve almost mastered your masterpiece, the inspiration is gone!

Of course it’s great to aim high, but the obvious problem with this, is that how can one ever get to 100% perfection? Here is a big tip: aiming for 100% or beyond is aiming for failure.

There’s nothing wrong with striving for perfection but it’s about getting the balance right. If you over strive you’ll put yourself into a position of constantly feeling overwhelmed, overworked, stressed and never being able to meet deadlines you set for yourself. Meanwhile, if you don’t care about what you’re producing – it will come across as looking cheap, tacky and not well thought out. So how can you get the perfect balance?

Become Aware of Your Perfectionistic Nature

If you’re struggling with thoughts like ‘I’ll never be able to be that good’ or ‘it’s just not good enough’, then make a point to really listen to your thoughts. Have a look at the track record of projects you’ve started, halted or scrapped because you thought it didn’t meet a certain standard. How have these thoughts impacted on your results over the past few years? Once you’ve considered this in more detail, you’ll be more open to what you can now do differently.

Here are some simple tips to help you tame that inner perfectionist:

1. Ask for Feedback

Keep Calm and Use Feedback

If we never allow ourselves to share our story or gift with the world, then we can never get feedback and therefore not know how to make improvements. Be brave, be yourself. Get feedback early and develop a thick skin.

Not everyone will connect with you and your message, but remember, you aren’t trying to connect with everyone! Start with people that you know, like and trust.

You know that they’ll give you a constructive feedback and the end result will be a lot more confidence in yourself and the resulting content that you produce.

2. Own Your Praise!

If you get praise for something you’ve done, take it as a sign that you are more than good enough! So many of us will easily brush off compliments, as a way of telling ourselves that we aren’t worthy.

But let me tell you, you are more than worthy of the compliment. It’s praise, it’s proof that you’re more than good enough. So if your inner voice is telling you that you aren’t, then listen to those that are telling you otherwise. A bit of social proof will change that inner perfectionist. If it’s good, it’s good, let it stay good, it doesn’t have to be better!

3. Practise Self Gratitude

Have you often looked up at, admired others – and put them on a pedestal? What was the result? It many cases, when you do this, you drag your own self worth down at the same time. You tell yourself that because this person may have more knowledge than you, more talented and more stills, this makes your knowledge not worth anything. Stop! Stop right there. If you catch yourself doing this, take a good look at yourself. Take a look at some of your major accomplishments. Wow. Guess what, you know stuff! You have gifts and talents that you can share with others.

Huge lesson: there’s always people that will know more than you, and people that will know less than you. This will never change. We never stop learning and we never stop teaching. Where you’re at on your level of ‘knowledge’ is irrelevant. Don’t even let this enter your mind. What you have to share is worth something, and what other’s have to share may be also worth something to you.

Stop comparing yourself with others and be happy with what you have to give. Because what you have to give is MORE THAN ENOUGH!

4. Learn the Fine Art of Delegation

If you’re banging your head against the wall thinking that something is simply not working, or that you aren’t good enough to produce what you’re trying to achieve, ask yourself this question:

‘Is this the most productive way to spend my time?’

Lining up Peas - The PerfectionistIf you find that what you’re doing really isn’t tapping into your core abilities, or true strengths, why not consider delegating the task to somebody else? True perfectionists hate this – having ultimate control over the outcome gives a sense of ownership and responsibility… but what if the end result is really quite self-destructive?

So if there are tasks that you struggle with, consider asking for help along the process or completely hand over responsibility to someone else. It might take practice, but practice makes perfect!

5. Set Realistic Deadlines

SMART GoalsI think the SMART goal system is perfect for perfectionists! (Specific, Measurable, Attainable, Relevant & Time-Bound). When we aim for perfection, we aim for FAILURE! I think the most relevant point here is attainable. When putting your goals together, chunk them down into attainable segments. When you finish that segment, tick it off and MOVE ON!

And finally, I’ll leave you with a thought – learn to practise some SLOPPY SUCCESS! In the words of  T Harv Eker:  “Sloppy Success is Better than Perfect Mediocrity”

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